Willing to Confront
2 Corinthians 9:8-15
Memory Verse: And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me.
2 Corinthians 12:9
Many parents learn in just the first few years of their graduation into parenthood of the necessity of confrontation with their children. They will likely use many methods in their attempt to provide safety and comfort for their offspring. Safety latches will be placed on cabinet doors particularly those where harmful items such as toxic cleaning supplies or medications are stored. This latch is a form of confrontation. Other boundaries will be more abstract in teaching these little ones with such a strong self will to respect their parents. One such boundary might be touching certain objects such as mom’s favorite glass decoration. The child is warned not to touch. The time comes when the child with a strong sense of curiosity crosses the established boundary and touches the object. Will the parent have enough love for the child and personal courage to confront and correct this little one? Confrontation is sometimes necessary and all the more when the stakes are so high. Truly the stakes are high when it comes to earning the respect of children and teaching them to observe necessary boundaries.
Confrontation within a church body is also necessary and healthy. Paul was making it very clear in this final section of his letter to the church at Corinth that he was going to come in the power of Christ. His confrontation to them was going to be dealing with the necessary issues and would definitely be for the good of the congregation. He called for them to go under a self examination first and seek to discover if they needed to repent before he came. If they would take care of the matters prior to his arrival they could spend the time of his visit rejoicing rather than working out differences. He did not want to have to come in severity but in rejoicing. He did realize, however, there is time to build up and a time to tear down and if their arrogance prevailed he would come in a way as to tear down so they could be built up.
There are many lessons for us in this story of the relationship between Paul and the Corinthians. First, in healthy relationships, issues are dealt with in a timely manner. Paul was not going to put the matter off so that it could fester and escalate. Secondly, in healthy relationships, issues are dealt with openly and honestly. Passive aggressive behavior is contagious and all to present in the American landscape including our churches. Instead of dealing openly with issues we tend to suppress them and then strike out at the opportune time.
In the first years of our marriage, my wife and I attended a Christmas party consisting of several other families of newly married couples. As we sat at a table playing a game, one of the wives seemed to walk through every open door of criticism toward her husband. It became clear that she was making those attacks in public but they were not addressing the issues in private. This is passive aggressive behavior and it is unhealthy to the relationship.
There is a time to confront and if we practice it when necessary it likely will not be nearly as painful. The longer we let it build, the more difficult it is to deal with. May God grant you the courage and wisdom to confront people with whom you share a relationship when it is necessary.
Reflection
What did God say to me from this Scripture reading, devotional, and/or prayer time?
What did I say to God?